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findchaos:

alexquintas:

aburningrose:

findchaos:

ChaosLife: Wig Worry
Of all the reactions I expected to get from wearing my new wig, I never anticipated the level of hostility I would face from passing many women in public. At the first couple of dirty glares, I just brushed it off as odd, but once I started noticing less-than-friendly looks from more than half of the women I passed, I had to remark about it to K. Surprisingly (to me), she didn’t seem shocked and instead shrugged it off, “that’s just how it is. Welcome to my day.”
I can’t deny it: women can be freaking terrifying to (those they perceive as) other women. Maybe be nicer to each other, everyone, okay?
(Read more in the blog on our site.)

They perceive you as a threat. Whatever you do, don’t move. Their vision is based on movement. But seriously, that’s freakin’ nuts. And also kinda scary.

Ok….. SOME women can react to this. Men can too though. Everyone can to anyone they think is attractive. it’s not just a woman thing. Feminine  beauty is a double edged sword. People think you owe them something for your looks and others can get upset because they don’t think of themselves as “attractive” as you. Honestly though, its not like… an everyday thing… and i dunno why but this comic kinda made me a little upset. Just a little I think mainly because you make it seem as though women are outwardly hostile towards all women all the time. Though I know you said CAN which is totally true, sometimes people are dicks for no reason, but… I dunno. Maybe I’m just being too sensitive. Or I don’t get perceived as a threat to others (which is true. I’m not really traditionally attractive by any means and usually people forget I’m a lady until they hear me or remember my boobs). Sorry… rambling. 

It seems to have rubbed a few people the wrong way, so you’re not the only one. In the comments section of our site, there are literally women saying I look “competitive” or “bitchy” when in my mind I am just looking neutral.
Despite lots of comment speculation, I don’t personally offer any explanation as to why this particular thing happened. I just know how people look at me most days and then noticed the huge difference in shady looks once I popped on the wig for an outing. My wife noticed it. My grandma noticed it. My friends noticed it. So it wasn’t “projection” of any sort, it was just right there in our faces and I made a comic about it, because I’m honestly puzzled.
Others have offered that it could have been: jealousy, gender policing (since I look more masculine), looks of insecurity instead of hostility and several YouTube videos explaining the phenomenon that I’m not even going to click on.
Maybe we live in a particularly appearance-hostile neighborhood or I was near a more shallow demographic of ladies at the time, who knows. By all means, I would never suggest that “ALL WOMEN” do/experience/say this (or anything else), let alone attempt an explanation. I’m sorry if the comic comes across in any way like that. As always, we were just making a literal account of an experience that happened and made me very confused and upset.

findchaos:

alexquintas:

aburningrose:

findchaos:

ChaosLife: Wig Worry

Of all the reactions I expected to get from wearing my new wig, I never anticipated the level of hostility I would face from passing many women in public. At the first couple of dirty glares, I just brushed it off as odd, but once I started noticing less-than-friendly looks from more than half of the women I passed, I had to remark about it to K. Surprisingly (to me), she didn’t seem shocked and instead shrugged it off, “that’s just how it is. Welcome to my day.”

I can’t deny it: women can be freaking terrifying to (those they perceive as) other women. Maybe be nicer to each other, everyone, okay?

(Read more in the blog on our site.)

They perceive you as a threat. Whatever you do, don’t move. Their vision is based on movement. But seriously, that’s freakin’ nuts. And also kinda scary.

Ok….. SOME women can react to this. Men can too though. Everyone can to anyone they think is attractive. it’s not just a woman thing. Feminine  beauty is a double edged sword. People think you owe them something for your looks and others can get upset because they don’t think of themselves as “attractive” as you. Honestly though, its not like… an everyday thing… and i dunno why but this comic kinda made me a little upset. Just a little I think mainly because you make it seem as though women are outwardly hostile towards all women all the time. Though I know you said CAN which is totally true, sometimes people are dicks for no reason, but… I dunno. Maybe I’m just being too sensitive. Or I don’t get perceived as a threat to others (which is true. I’m not really traditionally attractive by any means and usually people forget I’m a lady until they hear me or remember my boobs). Sorry… rambling. 

It seems to have rubbed a few people the wrong way, so you’re not the only one. In the comments section of our site, there are literally women saying I look “competitive” or “bitchy” when in my mind I am just looking neutral.

Despite lots of comment speculation, I don’t personally offer any explanation as to why this particular thing happened. I just know how people look at me most days and then noticed the huge difference in shady looks once I popped on the wig for an outing. My wife noticed it. My grandma noticed it. My friends noticed it. So it wasn’t “projection” of any sort, it was just right there in our faces and I made a comic about it, because I’m honestly puzzled.

Others have offered that it could have been: jealousy, gender policing (since I look more masculine), looks of insecurity instead of hostility and several YouTube videos explaining the phenomenon that I’m not even going to click on.

Maybe we live in a particularly appearance-hostile neighborhood or I was near a more shallow demographic of ladies at the time, who knows. By all means, I would never suggest that “ALL WOMEN” do/experience/say this (or anything else), let alone attempt an explanation. I’m sorry if the comic comes across in any way like that. As always, we were just making a literal account of an experience that happened and made me very confused and upset.

broodinghunx:

hey kid, over here

yeah, you

do you want awesome science fiction and fantasy

with thoughtful world-building and mythologies

centered entirely on African women???

then why aren’t you reading Nnedi Okorafor

Why do men feel threatened by women?” I asked a male friend of mine. (I love that wonderful rhetorical device, “a male friend of mine.” It’s often used by female journalists when they want to say something particularly bitchy but don’t want to be held responsible for it themselves. It also lets people know that you do have male friends, that you aren’t one of those fire-breathing mythical monsters, The Radical Feminists, who walk around with little pairs of scissors and kick men in the shins if they open doors for you. “A male friend of mine” also gives—let us admit it—a certain weight to the opinions expressed.) So this male friend of mine, who does by the way exist, conveniently entered into the following dialogue. “I mean,” I said, “men are bigger, most of the time, they can run faster, strangle better, and they have on the average a lot more money and power.” “They’re afraid women will laugh at them,” he said. “Undercut their world view.” Then I asked some women students in a quickie poetry seminar I was giving, “Why do women feel threatened by men?” “They’re afraid of being killed,” they said.

Margaret Atwood, Second Words: Selected Critical Prose (1983), pg. 413.
(via bydbach)

You’ve probably heard the punchline before, but here’s the full context for the quote. (via muffinw)

Recent books by trans women you should read…

tough-grrrl:

niaking:

…in no particular order:

Please add your own.

19% of prime time television characters are non-human while only 17% are women

A Profile of Americans’ Media Use and Political Socialization Effects: television and the Internet’s relationship to social connectedness in the USA ― Daniel German & Caitlin Lally

There are more “non-humans” on TV than women. Talk about unequal gender representation in the media.

(via yourlittle-bird)

postcardsfromspace:

sociolab:

therunscape:

Heart attacks symptoms are different for women. I recently learned this. 

Hmmm, I wonder how this is for trans men.

This freaks me way the hell out, because I feel like, as a woman, if I called 911 or showed up at an ER with all of these symptoms, I would be told to fuck off and have my panic attack somewhere else.

postcardsfromspace:

sociolab:

therunscape:

Heart attacks symptoms are different for women. I recently learned this. 

Hmmm, I wonder how this is for trans men.

This freaks me way the hell out, because I feel like, as a woman, if I called 911 or showed up at an ER with all of these symptoms, I would be told to fuck off and have my panic attack somewhere else.

fat-amy-for-president:

albamentum:

drunktrophywife:

being a girl is really fucking expensive

hahahahhhAHAHAHAHhahahahahhahahah WHO IS PAYING FOR YOUR DATES

hahahahhhAHAHAHAHhahahahahhahahah WHO IS PAYING FOR OUR TAMPONS, PADS, ULTRA SOUNDS, PAP SMEARS, OB/GYN VISITS, BRAS, CLOTHES, MAKE UP, HAIR PRODUCTS TO GO ON DATES WITH FUCKERS LIKE YOU?

For women, the narrative holds that sex is about the security — emotional and material — of the relationship, not the physical pleasure. Darwin agreed with this view. The “coy” female who “requires to be courted” is deeply embedded in his theory of sexual selection.

If women were as libidinous as men, we’re told, society itself would collapse. Lord Acton was only repeating what everyone knew in 1875 when he declared, “The majority of women, happily for them and for society, are not very much troubled with sexual feeling of any kind.”

And yet, despite repeated assurances that women aren’t particularly sexual creatures, in cultures around the world men have gone to extraordinary lengths to control female libido: female genital mutilation, head-to-toe chadors, medieval witch burnings, chastity belts, suffocating corsets, muttered insults about “insatiable” whores, pathologizing, paternalistic medical diagnoses of nymphomania or hysteria, the debilitating scorn heaped on any female who chooses to be generous with her sexuality … all parts of a worldwide campaign to keep the supposedly low-key female libido under control. Why the electrified high-security razor-wire fence to contain a kitty-cat?

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

this book is amazing.

(via paper-trains)

When I tell people I like to have an orgasm or two every day (and thus have sex frequently, usually daily, twice-daily or thrice-daily) they always say “That’s too much!” or “You’re insatiable!” or call me a nympho. Meanwhile men are applauded, or, usually, expected to have a morning masturbation session, an afternoon masturbation session and an evening coital experience — and that’s just the norm, in society, sitcoms and conversations. Why is it that women are expected to have less pleasure?

People are diverse with diverse sexual needs. You can’t divide feelings of desire on the gender line, it just doesn’t add up.

(via whowasntthere)

dearestsansa:

internleland:

wtnvwinchesters:

I’ve come to the conclusion that Sam and Dean would take one look at Night Vale and burn it to the ground, civilians be damned.

i’ve come to the conclusion sam and dean would drive into night vale and spontaneously combust from being exposed to sexual and racial diversity and women who don’t die within a week

OH DAMN SON

Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’

Amy Schumer [x] (via rashaka)

Some guys seem to have this mindset that the condition of a woman wanting to fuck them is this super-delicate balance.  Like “okay, I got sex lined up, NOBODY BREATHE OR YOU’LL RUIN IT,” and then if anything happens to distract the woman one bit, it can all just collapse in an instant.

Trust me, fellas, if a woman really wants to fuck you… it’s not that fragile.  She can be reminded that she has friends, even be reminded that other men exist, and her desire to fuck you will probably not pop like a soap bubble.

(via pervocracy)

miss-love:

friendlyangryfeminist:

funny that men mock women going everywhere in groups

but we’re not supposed to go out alone otherwise we might be blamed for our own rape, our own murder. 

-mic drop-

thebaconsandwichofregret:

i want to force like 75% of male nerddom to watch this conversation

As women, we are taught to be tiny. To have small bodies, to never be imposing. The ideal of our gender are thin and childlike, hairless and dainty. We are defined by our bodies; defined by our control over them. We are taught to obsess over our physicality and to be repulsed by our desires and intelligences.
We are taught to walk scared late at night. We cradle our keys between our perfectly manicured fingers, walking gracefully like a baby antelope in a herd of lions. That our virginity defines our character. That I am a frigid bitch if I do not fuck him, and a dirty slut if I do.
Michelle K. - The Truth About Growing Up A Woman. (via ambitionperfection)
cumber-hiddles:

scorpswimmer:

This is why you cant trust women, even when theyre mouth is closed theyre still lying to you

you do realize that this is really hurtful right?
i did not do this to show how i am ‘lying’ to men or anyone, it’s not about how you, as a man, should feel about it - it’s about myself. 
to me your statement sounds as if the left side of this picture is something awful or horrible. and no, it’s not. it is my face - with and without makeup. and whether i chose to wear it or not is MY AND JUST MY decision. and when i do, i do it for myself - so that i feel good about myself - not for you.

cumber-hiddles:

scorpswimmer:

This is why you cant trust women, even when theyre mouth is closed theyre still lying to you

you do realize that this is really hurtful right?

i did not do this to show how i am ‘lying’ to men or anyone, it’s not about how you, as a man, should feel about it - it’s about myself. 

to me your statement sounds as if the left side of this picture is something awful or horrible. and no, it’s not. it is my face - with and without makeup. and whether i chose to wear it or not is MY AND JUST MY decision. and when i do, i do it for myself - so that i feel good about myself - not for you.

booasaur:

cellfangirl:

So to get to 51% of the electorate the Republicans are going to have to pull some votes from previously offended demographics.

the greatest part of yesterdays episode. now wheres the womens part?

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