hidden-agender:

birdsmooches:

hm you know i think that a large part of the reason that the “i always knew/i was always different” narrative of trans experiences is so popular and widely spread is that it’s comforting to cis people

when a trans person tells a cis person that they always knew they were different, the cis person can feel comforted knowing that that’s not their experience; they’re not a budding trans person, they’re Safe

whereas when a trans person tells a cis person that “well you know i never really knew; it was just something that came up” the cis person doesn’t have that buffer; if it Just Happened to someone else, why couldn’t it Just Happen to them? there goes their security; this trans person hasn’t been Different all their lives, was always as Normal as the cis person, but then they weren’t. maybe Cis Person is actually just like Trans Person, but they just don’t know it yet. whoa. scary. 

so cis people reject that idea, because no way in hell are THEY ever going to be Like That. and i think that’s a large part of why people who don’t say it’s something they’ve always known are shamed and told that they’re not trans enough, not really trans, just faking it. in reality all trans experiences are equally valid, but in this system of hierarchy only certain trans experiences are allowed to be exposed to the world at large.

Truth bombs from Frederick right here.